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24 Hours

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Last Wednesday morning, we dropped Adlai off at Simon’s parents’ house and drove to Windsor, where we stayed in a beautiful old hotel for 24 hours.  To some of you, 24 hours may not seem like much of a break, but to us, well…it was heavenly.

We checked into our beautiful room, sat down at our table by the window, and stared out at the Berkshire countryside.  We did this once last year, when Adlai was about 18 months old, but I had forgotten how weird those first few minutes are when you are by yourselves and there is no toddler asking for milk or Veggie Tales or to play trains, and when there are no emails to send or dishes to wash.

Just us.

Just 24 hours of us and quiet and anything we wanted to do stretching out before us.

I picked up a Home & Garden magazine and flipped through it.  Simon read through the Guest Directory, sharing some of the highlights as he went along: “The bar’s open till 10.  It’s two miles to Windsor Castle.”

All of that took about 12 minutes.

For the rest of the 23 hours and 48 minutes, we went swimming in the hotel pool and sat in the jacuzzi (well, Simon sat in; I sat on the edge and hung my feet in so as not to cook our baby); we went out to dinner and lingered over what to order, lingered over conversations about this baby’s name, and how we’re feeling more ready, and what we’re dreaming of for the coming year; we slept till 8:30 (EIGHT-THIRTY!) and ate a huge breakfast, and drank multiple cups of coffee – slowly.

In the hotel bar, we sat by a fire and drank a beer and a ginger ale, respectively.

At the end of our 24 hours, we drove back to Simon’s parents’ house, rested (as rested as you can be at 8 months pregnant), and giddy to see our son’s smile, to hear him say our names.

24 hours.  It doesn’t sound like much, but for us, it was just enough.  In a way, it felt like God multiplied it; like the bread and fishes, he took what we could bring – one measly day, just enough money for one night away – and made it into abundance.

For us, for now, 24 hours was enough.

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Pancake Day

I had never heard of Pancake Day until I moved to the UK, but now that I know about it, I’ll never go a year without celebrating.

Pancake Day  (celebrated on Shrove Tuesday, the day before Lent) was traditionally the day people ate up all their rich foods like flour, sugar and butter in preparation for spending the Lent season fasting.  It’s not so practical these days, but it’s still celebrated…because eating pancakes is always a good idea.

Never one to pass up on an opportunity to celebrate, Adlai and I spent Pancake Day morning on Tuesday with his friends Sam and Rae and their mama, Sarah, who also happens to be one of my good friends and a real food mentor.  Sarah made some delicious soaked grain pancakes and they. were. delicious. (You can find the recipe on Sarah’s blog, here.)

I don’t know if I’ve mentioned the fact that I’m from North Carolina, but Sarah’s from Texas, and while English pancakes are a little bit different, we went for American pancakes because, well, we’re American.  We topped our pancakes with fresh fruit – bananas, kiwi, apples and cinnamon – and a healthy dose of maple syrup.

Later on Tuesday, Simon and I had our small group at our house, and we made pancakes again – this time a selection of my beloved American fluffy variety, and some English flat pancakes, that are a bit more like crépes and can be topped with savoury things like bacon and cheese and mushrooms…and even salmon, apparently.

I took some pictures of our pancake breakfast, but by the time the evening had rolled around, I was feeling every minute of my eight-months-pregnant, so I mostly just sat in a chair and let people bring pancakes to me.

If you’ve never celebrated Pancake Day, I highly, highly recommend it.  I mean, I eat pancakes pretty often anyway, but any excuse will do.

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And, of course, a gratuitous Adlai picture, because I’m obsessed with him…

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Joe & Kezia | Glasgow Wedding

I can’t tell you how much I loved this wedding.  It was my first time visiting Scotland, and the people were warm and welcoming, and the accents, well…I shouldn’t have to tell you I love a Scottish accent.  There were kilts – so many kilts – and haggis, and a ceilidh (a Gaelic folk dance…kind of like square dancing), and the bride drank whiskey with her dad while she was getting dressed.  Kezia is an artist and Joe is finishing up a PhD in Engineering at Cambridge, and their marriage of such different interests and strengths was – and is – such a pleasure to watch. It’s easy to take good photos of a couple as in love as these two are.

A totally unforgettable weekend.  Lots of love and thanks to Joe & Kezia for letting me be a part of their beautiful day.

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On Halloween

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There are a few times every year that I’m reminded I don’t live in America anymore.  Halloween is one of those times.

My facebook wall this morning was plastered with photos of my American friends and their kids decked out in their Halloween costumes, plastic pumpkins full to the brim with fun-size Snickers bars (I’m not sure what’s fun about a chocolate bar the size of my pinky toe, but that’s for another day).  On my Christian English friends’ facebook walls?  Statuses about how much they hate Halloween.  About sitting in the dark with their curtains closed so they wouldn’t get any trick-or-treaters.

Growing up in a Christian family, we weren’t huge Halloweeners.  We normally carved a jack-o-lantern (not too scary), were allowed to dress up (as princesses and pumpkins and hobos – never as devils or skeletons or vampires), and would occasionally go trick-or-treating at a few select houses in our neighborhood.
We never watched scary movies or went to haunted houses.  For me, it was a little bit about my homemade princess outfit and mostly about the candy.

I had a few friends growing up who didn’t celebrate Halloween, but not many.  There were churches, too, who threw alternative “harvest festivals”, and one in my hometown who held a – I cringe to type it – “Hallelujah-een” party.  They were pretty much the same things we did at home anyway – fancy dress, chocolate, bobbing for apples – and none of the scary stuff.

So that’s the Halloween I grew up with.  And that’s probably why, when I first came to England in 2003 and someone asked me why I celebrated Halloween, I was a little bit tongue-tied.

Yesterday, I briefly considered dressing Adlai up and taking him to a couple of friends’ houses to trick-or-treat.  And, to be honest, I would’ve done it if it wasn’t raining and I didn’t have a chest infection.  Instead, we drove to the pharmacy when Simon got home from work to pick up antibiotics.  But while driving around, I caught a glimpse of between 20-30 trick-or-treaters, and out of those, I saw one – a princess – who wasn’t dressed up as a devil or a grim reaper or a werewolf or a vampire.  And while there are kids who dress up as those things in America, I feel like there are more who are superheroes and Pocahontases and cowboys and dinosaurs.

I understand that the roots of Halloween are in darker things, and I’m sure it’s in large part because of the culture I grew up in that I’ve been able to separate that out from my Halloween experience for most of my life.

One of my English friends asked me yesterday why American Christians think it’s okay to celebrate Halloween, and I think that’s my best answer – that the Halloween I knew growing up, the one fashioned for me by my parents and my community wasn’t dark or grim or scary.

I’m interested to hear what you think, whether you’re British or American (or something else), a Christian or not.

Do you celebrate Halloween?  Why or why not?

*For a little something extra to think about, read Rachael’s thoughts here.

Also read this, by my friend Amaris, about her “Halloweeniversary.”

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On Making This House a Home

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When we moved into our rental house last Fall, I had big plans for it.  We’d been living in a split-level, upstairs flat for over a year, and I was seriously in love with it, but I just couldn’t carry Adlai and all his paraphernalia up and down the stairs anymore.  It was hard to leave, but my new two-story Victorian terrace house provided a lot of inspiration.  Plus, it had a backyard, and I’d been longing for a patch of land – however small – to call my own.

About a month after we moved in, I took a nasty tumble down our stairs and broke my ankle, and spent the next six weeks confined to my couch.  That took us to Christmas, and then we all caught whatever flu/virus/cold was being passed around at the time, and we spent till February pretty much just cruising through life with not much energy or motivation.

When we found out we were expecting another little one, we started talking about looking for a house with another bedroom (this one has two, with a third room you have to walk through to get to the only bathroom in the house). It wasn’t so much that we felt like we needed our new baby to have its own room – we’re quite happy for our kids to share – but more that we have people come from the US and stay with us for 1-2 weeks at a time (which we love), and we feel like this space isn’t providing us with a room to host people well in.

One thing I am so passionate about is hospitality.  I could talk about this for a long time – and I will, another day – but briefly, when someone comes to stay with me, I want them to feel warm and comfortable and cared for.  An air mattress in the living room doesn’t make me feel like I’m doing that for people.

So, we started looking for another house with one more bedroom.  Another bedroom, not surprisingly, costs about £100 more a month. Truthfully, we don’t know if we can afford that or not, because my work as a freelancer is feast or famine, and Simon has a new role that he’s only been in for a month.  We just don’t really know what life looks like for us in this new season yet.

While we figure that out, we’re going to stay put.  At first, I was bummed. But now I’m starting to look at my house with fresh eyes.  Because of our year of broken ankles and sickness, in a way we’ve become accustomed to living in a space we don’t love and haven’t really put our mark on.

Maybe it’s because the Fall makes me feel warm and cozy and like a bit of a homebody, and maybe it’s because the second trimester nesting phase has set in, but I feel totally excited to look at this house in a new way.  I love the challenge of figuring out how to use the space differently to make the rooms work better for our family.  I love the inspiration I get from blogs like this one and this one.  I love talking to my friend Sarah about ways to change our space around.  I love the creative rush I get when I think about my house as a blank canvas – a place where I can use so many different outlets to express myself.  And I love the thought of turning this house we’ve been camping out in for a year into a home where my family can grow in size, in creativity, and in love.

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Names to Give Your Children {for Americans}

I’m kind of obsessed with names.

Way before I ever got pregnant with Adlai, I owned a book of baby names that I mostly used to look up the meanings of names of people I met.  When we got pregnant, I started dog-earing pages with names I thought we maybe should call our child.  (The truth is, Adlai was Simon’s idea and didn’t even come out of my book.  Although I did look it up when he mentioned it.  It means “God is just”, or “My witness,” or “My Ornament.”)

I’m fond of unique names.  When I taught seventh grade the year after I graduated from college, I had 6 Kaylas in my classes, which I kept straight by referring to all of them by their full names.  I don’t want to do that to my kids’ teachers.  I’m always on the lookout for names that are meaningful, roll off the tongue easily, sound good with Dwight, and aren’t in the Top 10 most popular names for the last 5 years.

The great thing about living in England is that all the cool, popular American names are pretty uncommon here – and vice versa.  I’ve been really interested to get to know some of Adlai’s playmates here who have names that I’d consider really unique in America, and I thought I’d share some of them with you Americans, in case any of you are looking.

And don’t worry, Britons.  I’ll give you the run-down of American names next.  You know I wouldn’t leave you out.

These aren’t necessarily the most popular names for 2012, but they’re names of kids we know.

Boys We Know in Britain

Charlie

Hugo

Jago (pronounced jay-go)

Kasper

Eros

Beau

Archie

Harvey

Reuben

Girls We Know in Britain

Kezia (I kind of love this name.)

Emma

Elodie (pronounced like Melody, without the M.)

Amelia

Tilly

Poppy

Jemima

Fleur

Freya

What do you think, Brits?  Did I leave any out?

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I hate this stupid country.

There are days I hate this stupid country.

Days I hate its five-day forecasts of rain and rain and rain.

Days I hate its houses all stuck together so no one has any privacy and you can’t laugh too loud in the evenings or vacuum your carpets whenevertheheck you want to.

Days I hate its people who don’t say hello in the street, or wave to each other from passing cars on a rural road, or chat to strangers in the grocery store line; its people who close their curtains as soon as the sun sets, who are obsessed with “the property ladder” and “the recession” and “the Conservatives.”

I hate its stupid words for “line” and “diaper” and “bathroom.”  I hate that I have to repeat myself – to translate myself – to be understood.

I hate its rules for roundabouts, and its rules for drivers’ licenses, and its rules for immigration.

I hate that one Krispy Kreme donut costs $2.00.

I hate that there is no trace of maple syrup on its breakfast plates.

I hate its so-called “beaches” covered in painful pebbles, and lapped by freezing cold waves.

Yesterday was one of those days.  I laid on my bed after Adlai went to sleep and cried so hard I shook.  Cried because I hated everything so much.  Cried because this country is stupid.

And then this morning, as is most often the case, I saw last night’s tears for what they really were.

The truth is, the only thing I really hate about this country is that it is 3,000 miles away from my family, my big sister, my best friends.

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Meet the Superhumans

I’m kind of obsessed with the Olympics.  I turn it on first thing in the morning, and have to drag myself off to bed after the last bit of coverage goes off at night.  Simon and I are planning to go down to the Olympic Park in the next few days to soak up the atmosphere, but know what’s more exciting than that?  We’ve got tickets for the Paralympic athletics, in the Olympic Stadium, next month.

Want to know why I’m probably more excited about the Paralympics than I am about the regular Olympics?  Watch this.

Dare you not to be inspired.

Meet the Superhumans from STITCH on Vimeo.

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Independence Day Barbecue

A couple of weeks ago, a few of our friends got together at our American friend Sarah’s house for a good old-fashioned Independence Day barbecue.  Except it wasn’t that old-fashioned, because there were lots of British people there.  And we barbecued Lincolnshire sausages.  But other than that…

Our friend Ali (wo)manned the grill.

Adlai got wild and wore his American flag bib as a cape.

This is Sarah.  She’s from Texas.

This is Sarah about to take part in a three-legged race with her son, Sam.  Check out that game face.

Here she is again, talking tactics.

Next up: egg races.

Check me out back there.  I am totally talking trash to Ali.

“I don’t care if you’re pregnant; I will take you down.”

Kezia and Joe are getting maaarried.

Aren’t they cute?  They’re Scottish, but we let them come anyway.

I love Adlai.

Adlai loves Sarah’s daughter, Rae.  Or, as he calls her, “Waaaay.”

Even in England, the best way to end a barbecue is with sparklers.

Some things are universal.

 

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Norfolk, Part II

Today, I’m continuing my pictorial tour of our recent trip to Norfolk.  If you missed Part I, not to worry.

Next on our to-do list…

3. Go to Salthouse Beach.  Buy a really good Americano from the man with an espresso machine in his van (seriously). Sit on the pebble beach.  Realize your lifelong dream of finding an unbroken dried starfish.  Watch your child play.  Shed a little tear (really) at how completely and utterly blessed and loved you feel in this moment.

4. Drive to Holkham.  Walk to the beach that Gwyneth Paltrow strolled along in the final scene of Shakespeare in Love. Play in the sand.  Take a family photo.

Sometimes there’s so much to do, that going somewhere with no wifi and really bad mobile phone service is the only thing that can make you stop and remember that this – this – is your life.

Your husband.

Your son.

Staying up late watching football and eating chocolate.

Waking up early to your toddler, who has learned to copy his dad, shouting, “Faif!  Faif!”

Sitting on a beach with a cup of coffee for hours.  Shedding real tears because this moment is a gift, and you have done everything not to deserve it.

This life is beautiful.

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